We need boundaries in the material world!

Those who know me well, say that I put my heart on my sleeve and I will get hurt, so I have to be careful! Truth is I have been hurt many times, I have been clueless, I have been so sincere and I have been raised in a pretty steady family, I used to believe that if I love you, you will love me the same, and I don’t have any intentions whatsoever to hurt anyone, so why would I be careful?! Do you see my point?! 

And there is my empath part, I feel your emotions like mines, I relate with you up to the point that I can not distinguish if they are yours or my emotions. Since we all are here to strengthen what we lack and to give what we have already mastered, life has been throwing me into those kinds of situations where I have to even out what I give and what I receive, until I finally get it right.  

Another part I don’t want to forget, I am a spiritualist, and spiritualists do not have clear boundaries, they are free, they love purity and they have light, that is the only thing they see all around, even if you are very dark inside, spiritualists focus their attention in that 1% of light you have, this is the single truth.

But, living in a materialistic world, when people believe they are their mind, they are their body, and their body has its own limitations, they have got to watch out, otherwise, they will get broken somehow.

Ironically, human beings are not only afraid of the unknown, but they are also afraid to other human beings, because, from the beginning of all times, Eve and Adam committed a sin and their love from unconditional, became conditional, from the divine, became mundane…

And what happens when we are only mundane, we have to much of free will, as a result we have to learn how to relate, take care of our-self, be cautious, have clear boundaries, that’s why all those books have been brought up, starting from Bible, Quran, law, and many many other books that point out boundaries, so we do not get hurt in the process of life. 

Due to that, every time we get hurt, we learn that we either have weak boundaries or to rigid ones, thus, we need to build them stronger or we need to set them a bit free, but we can not just get going without any restrictions otherwise we will suffer or we will make others suffer. Hurt people hurt!

Therefore, when you feel like you are getting hurt, it means your boundaries need to be set up, you have to make them known, and you are the one who has to respect those boundaries in order for others to do the same.

Do not say, oh, because I love that one more than the other I will tolerate them more, nope, set them for all with the same degree and stick with them, also you will have more self-confidence and self-awareness about what you are expecting, and you must do the same when others put boundaries in you, respect them and give them all the space they ask for.

Pretty simple when you know what is good for you and what is not, pretty difficult when you have been acting all your life without knowing what you were doing, without knowing yourself. I used to believe that since I am an adult and I know who I am, others would respect my opinion, my heart, my feelings, and my emotions, by default, because it should be like that, but we live in a world full with different levels of understanding, and some hurt you in purpose, some hurt you because they know nothing but hurt and drama, some hurt you, not because they want to, but because they are emotionally immature, so to speak, you have to be the one who takes care of yourself and through that you show others with actions and words if possible how you deserve to be treated.

However, we can always start over, so don’t be hard on yourself if you have not been fully connected with your intuition and you have been disrespected or you have been the one who has been hurting others, through not taking into consideration boundaries on both ends.

Have a conversation with yourself, know what is wrong or right for you, write those boundaries down now and spread it in your relationships, be it work, home, partners, friends, strangers, trust me when you know your part, when you are fully aware of what you need and deserve, it will be easy when you relate to every culture, circumstance, place you will ever be, and even those who have no idea about boundaries they will sense your confidence and how serious you take yourself and they will follow. Why is that?

They have no other choice, or they will be out of your circle, out of your life, because you just don’t get one another, and things will be awesome. No growth comes without making space, no freedom comes from dimming your light.

You on your way, I in my way, no one gets hurt, no one holds on to negative emotions, at least not from your side, and if they hold on, that is their problem, their problem it is none of your business.

For example, I do astrology reading, I put a price for the time and energy I spend on it (even though I love it), It is self-worth, you want the service, you pay for it. Another example, I don’t like my phone to be checked by anyone but me, so I make that pretty clear from the beginning, I will not touch your phone either, because I know how important privacy is to me, thus I believe it is important to you too. Or, you want to have a committed relationship, but you meet someone who is not ready for that, you have got to let each other go, better things will come your way. 

Or, when you have a friend who calls you and texts you very often because they need to talk with someone all the time, they keep on interrupting your work, your sleep, your energy, you have got to tell them with love, please I really need some space can you just text me less, hence when we block people, because they just can’t seem to understand about boundaries and they don’t know how to take care of themselves, they don’t know how to be alone, but we are adults for God sake. There is Me time, You time and Us time. Love yourself! ❤️❤️❤️