Are you to invested in a situation?

When we are investing more then we should whether in a job or a relationship, we lose some power, energy gets stiff and needs to be unleashed, otherwise, so much antipathy will control our life. 

I used to know a couple a few years ago, and there are many like this pair around in the days of our lives.

They got married at the age of 25, and had 2 children, after the year 3 of their marriage things started to get broken, she was to demanding and he was to concern with his freedom.

Ironically her love and his selfishness got in the way, as a result, they lost their way back to their heart because communication and blaming was taking place. 

As a result, he cheated on her, she beg him to change, he promised he will but he never did, so she decided to leave him taking their children, all his possessions so he can have the life he chose!

He used to tell me, can you imagine she never really loved me because she took everything I had created, while she would say to him that he damaged her and he ruined her life. 

Sadly, she was using their children to punish him, and he was using her overwhelming love as an excuse to run from his responsibilities and from the routine. Who is the winner in this case scenario?! Obviously, the devil, he has been winning and laughing with us every time we follow him. Don’t you understand?!

We keep on condemning others and we hold on to remorse way longer than we should, the other is at fault and malign, but we don’t see the error of our ways!

Pretty much when we are investing more than the other, they just take advantage and are not willing to give, due to the inability to be a giver, due to unresolved traumatic issues, and the one who is overextending herself needs lots of healing too, she has a pattern as she believes that if she gives to much he is going to stay with her and love her, guess what, he not only leaves her, but he as well disrespects her for giving more to him than to herself. 

All the She’s out there have to understand that they have the will power to prevent themselves from overdoing things, and when to move on, as far as per all He’s, they have their will power to choose whatever they want but they have to face consequences of their own actions! No one is going to win a race nor a competition, when we don’t go for instant gratification, we don’t suffer for years!

This is a beautiful drama that unfortunately keeps on repeating itself, if we could just stop for a minute and think, why am I behaving this way, what am I getting out of this, who loves who, do I love this individual or do I need them, what am I learning here, how much am I at fault, how badly am I treating myself and the other?

If we could stop pointing our finger towards the other and start reflecting, working on our wounds not causing more troubles, not listening to the negative voice that pushes us to become who we are not, that makes us so manipulative, desperate, sad, haters, unwilling to budge, controlling, not knowing, heartbreakers…

If we could just breathe deeply and stand still for a second, we will know that all that matters is peace and love in our heart, nothing more, nothing less! In the end, before we leave this world we will not think who was right, but who loved us dearly! Raise your vibration! ❤❤