Are you emotionally available for yourself? 

Childhood is very important, it creates us all over, but at times our being goes beyond this moment and space somehow!

We have been used to act in some ways and we have ingrained our souls in patterns, it is hard to escape the role we have used to play, we are set in a stone and we suffer.

Truth is, we will deeply suffer until we learn how to let go and that we are fluid, we are ever changing, we can indeed welcome the new.

Have you ever noticed those who are stubborn,  those are also called stubborn souls, they are like that due to the pain they have faced and they have been creating huge walls it is hard for anything good to trespass them, there is only one way, when their heart gets really broken, only then they will understand they have been in hell for so long…they have forgotten to cry and crying is a necessary release for someone to purify himself. 

How do we know we do not know how to be emotionally present for ourselves?

When we look outside for fulfillment, when we don’t listen to ourselves,  when we are clingy to those who know how to take care, when we don’t have clear boundaries, when we don’t have self respect, when we are attracted to those who do not treat us well, when we attract unavailable partners and friends, when we are not listening to our inner child, when we are not present for our inner self,  our deep wounds and silence.

When we go after others so they appreciate us or give us attention and if not we feel so miserable.  When we settle for less due to the belief that we do not deserve better, when we think we are what others want us to be, when we are chameleons for everyone’s needs, but we completely ignore and forget ours.

When we do not have a plan for the future, when we allow others to take advantage of us due to the fact that we have not learned how to stand up for ourself. 

When we don’t ask for things we want because we are shy and we hope someone will give it to us otherwise we are not worth of having it whatsoever.

When we let others decide for us and dictate our future, when we don’t know how to be by ourselves without fearing loneliness, when we cannot stay alone, cannot take care of our hygiene, diet, body, mind and soul. When we refuse to grow up and to take responsibility, when we wait for someone else to make us happy, when we feel so disappointed and our ground gets shaken when others criticize us.

When we do not seat with our feelings, when we do not accept our flaws and when we do not appreciate our positive traits. When we are unforgiving of ourselves and of others. When we become emotional vampires or others emotional garbage.

When we don’t know our values, what we like and what we do not like, when we try to explain to those who still don’t get us. When we are heartbroken when someone is judgmental of our behavior even though they have never been in our shoes…

Do not underestimate your power, do not be afraid to express who you are, do not refrain yourself from your own light, you have all the rights to be loved, cared, respected, listened, be happy, be authentic, be successful, but you will realize all this when you truly get to know yourself, and when you do you will set yourself free, you will also allow others expose themselves as they are, and their opinions want destroy you, you will learn how to agree to disagree and still be happy, because only you know you better than anyone else. 

When you listen compassionately to your own pain you have learned how to support yourself!

Standing completely by yourself and taking care of your emotional, physical, mental, financial and spiritual needs will help you understand who you really are and you will never allow someone else define you, you will build your confidence and you will move in life gracefully, only peace in your mind and love in your heart! 
Raise your vibration! ❤❤