Why we should not “beg” for a commitment?!

Have you noticed that when we like someone so much we push them away because they feel suffocated from our affectionate nature, they say they are not ready for a relationship and immediately after, they get into a committed one with someone else!

Isn’t that ridiculously funny?!

• A) You are trying way to hard;  
• B) The other one is not requiring any change from them nor insisting for a commitment;
• C) You both have commitment issues;
• D) They are here to give you a message, you will understand it later on;
• E) They are not here to stay and the list goes on…

You know life is strange and full of mystery, even when you think you have figured it out, something else will need your attention, it is an ongoing process of growth.

However the case may be, we love to love and we love to be loved, especially we consider love only when the other is giving us from themselves and how far they can go for us, this is human nature.

In contrast, love has to do with how much you are the one who is willing to give without expectations and the need to be loved in return.

When that realization arises, one will get involved without fear of disappointment and of getting hurt or being rejected.

In this way one has released oneself from giving his power away, acquiring someone else to cheer them up and to experience joy only when it is pleased by another. 

On the other side, the other can sense the ease and does not feel any obligation to love you, give you, stay with you, commit with you. 

When both individuals are emotionally independent enough, they do not tie up out of duty or fear from standing by oneself, but from the desire to get attached with another and to express the amount of love each and every one of us is able to share. 

You do not need to make anyone get committed to you, almost never this technique works, beside you do not have to forcefully work on experiencing love, love is free and it comes naturally, it is not a job you must finish.

If it doesn’t then you are “trying” to make it happen, guess what it is not for you unless you need to learn something from this kind of relationship or to prove something to your ego.

Whatsoever, it is not necessary to reckon up, to make it better, to make it last, and yes, everything requires devotion, respect, getting closer & togetherness.

With that being said, only that kind it will be felt as unrestrained, it will come from both sides as an equal desire to build a strong foundation with one another, as a result of the mutual appreciation to create a healthy environment for their relationship to thrive. 

It is best to not extend yourself in situations that are not working and maybe never will, it is a waste of time and energy, as it takes two to the tango, it also takes two to fall for one another and to allow that happen. 

I also believe it will be undemanding and pain-free, you will be encouraged and helped from the partner to get accomplished in other areas as a result of this tender, unconfined, glowing kind of love.

Moreover, do not try to convince someone how a good match you might be and how wonderful you could be as a couple, there is a reason why you are not, and there is an indication that you have to move away from places when love is not understood, accepted, as well as when you are in denial, never mind in different wavelengths of interconnectedness.

I would just say, stop sweating on it and be amused by life, pour your spark and optimism where your heart is being cherished. 

Furthermore, you can experience eagerness, your creative spirit, and fascination when you will no longer worry about how your life will be without them? What the other is doing? You will no longer wonder if you are being loved or not, you will be super sure about it. 

To conclude it is pointless to pressure a commitment, it is not worth it, let love flow effortlessly and make peace with what you cannot have, what is not for your highest good. Indeed, if you are stressing so much it means there is something that needs to be transcended on both parts, but please be reasonable and do not confuse love with a lesson. 

Raise your vibration! ❤❤