When we are addicted to the pain!

“You can break my heart in two, But when it heals, it beats for you, I know it is forward, but it is true, I know I would go back to you”

Unfortunately, just like in Selena Gomez song we become addicted to everything that causes us shivering and gets stored in our body, that is why love has the ability to heal, yet pain keeps that away from us. 

Due to the energy accumulated our body resists change, resists radiation and healing, even though deep down we know that something is going on underneath, but we are unable to put the finger on it and to understand what we are causing to ourselves or others.

In this category of addictive pain, there are two types of individuals that sadly are classically attracted to one another, there are the perpetrator and the victim. 

They are like the mouse and the cat, playing catch at all times with one another, no love, bond or healthy attachment will ever happen with this pair, they are just so caught up to the hurt and the excitement they get from it, so they confuse it usually with passion, intensity, and love, and it is not the case at all. 

They are just two desperate individuals that need fixing separately from each other, only then they might come back together or they will despise one another, it all depends on how willing they are to work things out. 

How does this relationship feel like?

They think they would die if they part ways, there is a link in their brain and their sacral chakras, filled with lustful sexual desires, fear of abandonment, loneliness, and loss, that’s is why one of them has the control and is in charge, while the other loves to be abused and possessed. 

Ironically, they are the perfect match until one of them cannot handle this drama any longer, one of them is trying to get their sovereignty back, and the other becomes even more aggressive and gaslighting since it is failing the grip in the situation. It is all about ego powers.

It is typical on and off love story, one leaves the other depleted and broken in pieces, going out there dealing with other things and people, until the one left behind starts recuperating, feeling better and then they go back toward one another just like a magnet, for another round. 

That could go for years, not because there is genuine love here, in most of the cases there is nothing but the trauma they play and replay together.

What will happen to them? 

Usually the one who holds himself as a victim, comes to the senses and understands that it is not weak, understands that actually the one who is pertaining dominance is more of a coward than the one who is being controlled (we do want to be in charge, because we think we have power over the others, because we believe this is the only way we can have what we want and what makes us stronger from the outside even though we are very weak and sentimental inside of us.) As simple as that, even though we don’t have to apply any maneuver, as everyone has the right to live their life on their own terms. 

The one that finally wakes up, doesn’t want to participate there any longer and abandons the ship, the healing journey takes place, taking their life back, not allowing anyone to treat them with disrespect, as well as seeking only for healthy loving relationships usually away from the abuser. 

The abuser goes on hunting someone else to abuse, since for them it is harder to believe there is such a possibility for healing, and it is way to difficult to change or to accept that there is something unhealthy going on within, unless they do become aware and they seek for help too, then all the lessons on both ends are learned and the love between them either dissolves or becomes even stronger, a bond that can never be broken. 

I love the happy endings and even if it seems there is no way out from a situation, I strongly believe there is. 

There is always light at the end of the tunnel, but you will miss it out if you haven’t found the light within, you will be used to the darkness and that’s the only thing you will unfortunately undergo.

Raise your vibration, change your life story from sadness to great pleasure! ❤❤