“Reptilian brain”

We are here to mingle with others, and that’s our life purpose.

It is lovely to meet human beings from different backgrounds and cultures, it is so exciting to meet individuals from different soul groups, we get to share our life experiences in time and in this beautiful dimension called earth.

Partnerships take time and require lots of energy from us, the only way we can focus our attention and our resources in our life purpose and in ourselves only, is by staying alone.

On the other side, we are made to be with someone else, we are made as a couple and it does not matter if we decide to go after such or not.

Moreover, what is interesting, is the fact that we have the right to go on our own or to be with another, and we chose to be with someone else at all times, avoiding loneliness.

Ironically, there are many ways and possibilities to meet new people and with a snap of a finger we are in someone’s arms, with a wink we are together, always together, yet with different faces and bodies, although, similar dynamism.

We start and we finish a so-called relationship with no attempts, not wasting any single moment on thinking how much we are getting, what and why are we being involved with another.

Funny enough, we do not give a damn if things don’t work out, we don’t even bother to understand where the other is standing, we are selfishly focused only in the here and now, nothing lasting, nothing significant, only a bunch of dates we so desperately try to have fun and in the end we calculate what we are gaining or losing, how many we have made cry, how many we have made happy.

We are completely blindfolded, no one wants nothing profound, everyone acts as very busy, full of ideas and activities, we are not looking for any commitment, everyone wants to take things lighter, no one wants to fight, we get bored very easily and we search for some more entertainment and easygoing encounters, when things start to settle we are simply out, we cannot stand pressure like we are made by the weakest glass.

We believe that relations and soul mates are here for pleasure and gratification, however, we forget that we haven’t had the chance to taste worthwhile connections, and if we keep on following this path of laziness when breaking up is like bread and cheese, with many false and failed love affairs, as much as we have forgotten to take track on them.

Relationships people of all kinds, not only romantic, need action, communication, support, quality time, agreements, therefore, they are not only good, but they bring joy even in the worst situations, when we learn that we are imperfect humans, relationships are messy, and that’s perfectly normal, relationships are not for everyone, not all the times.

Relating needs attention, imagination, understanding, love, spirit, liveliness, passion. It is not for the dull ones.

When we need space for ourselves, because we see the other as a threat for personal fulfillment, then it is wiser and genuine to not get attached, on both ends.

You have all the right to take your time, do your things, live your life, do not hurt anyone, do not hurt yourself, do not rush to get in one.
When you feel ready, go out there and honor being in a companionship, not because of need, and not because you are alone, not just for fun, and surely not just for sexual needs or ego-boosting.

When we think we are getting bored, or the other is not interesting, or they stopped being as enjoyable as they were in the beginning, it is time to take that in and chew it, perhaps it is you who are monotonous, unimaginative, who ceased to work things out.

It is you who are not interesting because you don’t know how to be in a relationship more than the first 2-3 months, you have only learned how to initiate and start a relationship, how to court someone, but you have never learned how to love, to listen, to support, to give of yourself, you do not know how to participate.

It is beyond your reach, you go in the school for a couple of months and then you get tired with it, but if you stop going, you will never learn valuable things, you will never know who you are and what you are capable of, you will never have the chance to touch real raw emotions, you have only learned lust and you, my dear think you know it all, you have a finger into the water and you think you have crossed the ocean.

You have never gone far enough, so for sure, you will get bored, not because of the other, because of your inability to dive deeper.

Honestly, I believe that relationships that are passing the test of time nowadays and timeliness of predicted breakdowns are those who either have discerned to keep it together despite the challenges and have grown stronger as a result, or those who are existing by default, for money, for the sake of the kids, and superficial comfort, but are not considered benign, balanced, heartfelt ones.

RS❤❤