Are you a commitment-phobe?

Are you ready to navigate without resistance to this fear that is preventing you to live your life to the fullest?
I bet you will not until you get hurt and you start realizing your pattern.

For various reasons, we have come to those sets of rules, restrictions, and beliefs and even though we have outgrown them, automatically we press the same button.

Usually, unhealthy family attachments and dynamics plant the seeds for our distorted understanding and we feel as though unable to see it from with clarity and awareness until as I mentioned, we are forced to look into it and to do some soul searching.

Unhappiness is a trampoline for getting to know who you really are and for learning about life.

We are afraid of commitments because:

1. We are scared of growing up and facing adulthood, we suffer from the Peter Pan syndrome.
2. We are afraid of responsibilities which takes us to the first point
3. We are afraid of getting hurt, we refuse to grow up, check with the first point
4. We are terrified of hurting someone else, which can as well relate to the second point.
5. We are afraid of failure, therefore we don’t try to enter into a commitment at all
5. Unfortunately, we have been emotionally damaged and we don’t know how to mend ourselves until we focus on the solution and no more in the problem we will keep on suffering or we will rise up getting help from others.
6. We are perfectionists to a default in a material imperfect world.
7. Fear of the unknown, concentration on mental analysis and frightened to let go, so, lack of trust that there is something higher than us.

The great news is that we can always change and shift our ways, our outlook with persistence and the desire for better outcomes, for having a more balanced and peaceful life, instead of going in circles, we become aware and we deal with our demons, we don’t fight with our shadows, we accept and we make peace with them.

So to speak, learning to stay committed we have to practice self-discipline, we have to set plans and goals, we have to have a daily well-prepared to-do list, we have to train our mind, body, and soul to look on the right direction, like an arrow we have to focus on the ultimate goal, the only thing that we will think about will be the attainment of what we desire.

Therefore, if this sounds difficult at first, in order for us to change our entire way of being, behaving and thinking we must bring awareness into our life, each moment we breathe, so when we will get triggered to go back to our old patterns we will know how to stop ourselves and to change the direction of what does not nurture us, no more living in autopilot and by default.

To simplify it, start committing yourself to something as small as a promise, today you are going to call your Mom, and you are going to do that for at least one week at exactly the same time until it becomes a habit.

Or you can decide to start exercising and you are going to do such every day at the same time until it becomes part of your everyday life.

Then you promise yourself to meditate for a few minutes every day, at the same time, and then to stop thinking a negative thought, or to replace them with a positive one…

On the other hand, when you automatically react while you think someone else is making you do so, observe, step outside of yourself and learn to calm yourself down, gain perspective as well as momentum since you will learn that you have a choice, to do what you always do or to do something that honors your heart as well as it is fairness on both ends.

Lastly, commitments are a conscious decision, just like everything in this life, even love in that regard, as much as we suppose it happens naturally, I would go as far as to state, when we are not ready and open to receive, we will not be able to understand it, we will lose the chance of exploring it, we might dispose it as we have decided it is not the right moment, not for us and so on…

Everything is a commitment, and commitment is a mindset, going to work, getting the vehicle you desire, finding your purpose, spiritual growth, the salary you want….and if we are bad at such we have to work harder to overcome it, thus we can embrace life with all that is to experience.

As much as I strongly recommend committing, I also recommend doing so with the right cause and for the right reasons.

Whenever my clients say but I was committed to X or Y person and or situation, but they were not.
I always reply, stay focus on what you want to achieve and determined, however, do not connect that with a face, a specific person and or situation, you will always get what you want, what your spirit desires and he knows what he deserves, that after all his journey is solo and limitless.

Stay tuned with your heartbeat and get the results!
You wish to get married to someone who makes you feel at your best, uplifts you and adds to your happiness, or you want to marry someone you think you love but that person is never around and accessible to you, does not even consider on giving what you are looking for?!

Be wise, be brave and committed to your truth, there you are going to find all the answers.

RS❤❤