Is it better to be single or to be in a bad relationship?
From the beginning of all times, human nature is composed of the desire to be touched and to be loved, by the desire to be heard and understood, and we succumb to all the perceptions and our instincts, we are meant to want and need and be in two’s.
When we are open to the idea of understanding and of being compassionate of our earthly neediness, we don’t see life from a point of survival anymore, but from a deeper perspective of who we are and what we have to do to get everything that we are looking for, without feeling threatened by our ego.
While it is hard to be alone and single, it requires extra strength as you have to be double prepared and to take all the decisions by yourself, everything depends on you and so on.
On the other hand, there is so much freedom and easiness, there is silence and peace that comes with it, there is lots of wisdom and evolution.
Moreover, as per my opinion, leading a single life is better than being with the wrong person and or being part of a dysfunctional relationship.
I have always wanted and craved stability, emotional and more, but I have never compromised my soul to the degree of repressing it just for the sake of being in a companionship.
It is beyond my knowledge, reason, and comfort. Why would I waste my time and energy in short-lasting, meaningless stories, why would I lose myself in another when the other is making me sign a contract with the devil, meaning why would I chose to even be miserable with someone else when I can be totally fine and content with my skin?!
Everyone should be able to make sense of their situation and realize where they have been placing themselves, and more importantly, how their situation makes them feel.
I know, I have always believed that relationships are 24/7 job, and require lots of patience, tolerance, and comprehension, but that is true only if one of the two is doing all the work when the relationship is unrequited or one-sided, otherwise, relationships are also, fun, support, fondness, bonding, communication, passion, adventure, and all many great other things.
There are people who cannot stand the idea of being alone, they do not know how to not be with someone else, it feels like they are missing the compass to navigate through life, they just cannot self-sustain themselves, and they surrender to the first encounter, accepting most of the times terms and conditions that do not honor their truth thus, being very unhappy.
However, we also have those who would rather be by themselves than settle for less than they know they can have.
My point is, I see miserable couples and so many happy singles, that is truly ironic!
Don’t get me wrong, I love relationships, I certainly love togetherness even though I have spent most of my life alone because I don’t mind being patient and waiting for the one that matters to me, I don’t want to go for a spur of the moment instant gratification, I don’t need someone else to make me feel complete, I can certainly provide for myself more than what I have ever met until now, I do not give a damn what others think as we all have our own biological hour, I really want to build long-lasting happiness and if that takes time and some more miles alone doing ME, I am totally positive with going all along with it.
As always the most difficult journeys are blessed with the greatest endings, so there is no rush, I am still very content and confident with or without another, but one thing is for sure, I would never, ever commit to anything less than I deserve, and I know how much I do, I have learned it all by myself, I am so grateful!
RS❤❤
