Have you ever been dating a narcissist?
After being around narcissists, professionally and personally, reading lots of information about them, I have come to terms what they really want at least I believe I do, because they are masters of deception so…As all human beings need love, they desperately seek for it, but as damaged as they are they fear love most than anyone else, unfortunately. So they treat people as they feel inside, well… like shit.
Did anyone made you cry and you were torn in pieces trying to understand why?! “I cried when I met you, I cried the minute we shook our hands, I cried for no particular reason”.
I thought I have found my soulmate but unfortunately it was the deep hurt that the other was feeling inside that made me cry. It was their need for some light in their darkest corner of their soul. Usually empaths are their choice, and being an empath, does not make things easier, like a sponge for other peoples emotions, one can’t help but attract you or try to heal you. It is the hardest yet the most profound thing one can have, yet you are not God.
And you have to know your limits and to live with boundaries in order to survive. Truth is, you don’t want only to survive, you want to live in peace and happiness.
Anyhow, they are absolutely charming, they are the best dates you will have, they promise you the stars, for in the end to give you nothing but pain, and for them is like a calling for help, exactly like those individuals that commit suicide because their pain becomes unbearable, and they feel lonely and desperate. The same thing happens with the narcissists, they need help, love, to be nurtured, to be adored, for them to have a normal life, without using and abusing others.
To them, you serve a purpose, if not you cease to exist! They treat everyone the same, they are charming and flirty, but nothing is true, everything they do is for them to go where they want to go, to get what they want to get, and only after they have gotten everything they can, they leave, they actually drop you, because you fulfilled their little challenge. They blame you for things that they do, they make you sick just to tell you that it was your fault, and then they run shamelessly, most of them always come back though just to get some little more, some might even stalk you for years, some are to proud to show up, but they need your light…
Sadly, if you still have so much love to give but honestly, it is so painful to give and to get nothing in return, you feel so empty each moment you spend around them. Why?! …because they constantly want and want and want, it is all about them, and most likely it is emotional reward through different ways, putting you down, physical abuse, well…material as well! The later the degree the worst they treat you for that matter. The stronger you became, the more they hate you because you are not “obeying” to them, you are making them feel less than they think they are, and the worst part is they are never wrong! They have nothing to change or heal, you do. Apparently, you do, because you finally find the strength to move on and to love yourself for who you really are. You understand that you deserve better and you can still send them love from afar although they will never appreciate it or feel it because their feelings have been shut down a long time ago.
You have always wanted to help those people, but you can’t give your spirit to someone else, no matter how much you care for them. After all, life is as it is, some people wanna do the work, healing and progressing, some won’t!
We are blessed with free will, but also we are here to love and be loved in return, so is up to you if you want to put up with their bullshits, with their damage personality, or live the life you deserve and wish them all the best! ❤️❤️❤️
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