Are you ready to be in a relationship and to be in love?
Just because one has been in a relationship for 5 or 20 years does not mean that one knows how to be in one, just because I am trying to put some light on this topic does not make me an expert either, but there is truth and awareness here!
Being in a relationship requires work and being lively, not just daydreaming about what if’s and if I could, you can not be lazy because things might get stiff.
We think of course we are, I am always ready, let me tell you how wrong is our perception for both relationships and love as separates and for them as one.
Obviously, just because you are in a relationship it does not mean you are in love and just because you are in love does not mean you are in a relationship. Does that make any sense?
Yeap that’s right those two unfortunately do not come along, not in a package for some unknown and known reasons, even though we believe differently.
To be in a relationship it does not mean all is perfect and everything is smooth, but it does not have to be the other way around. In order for us to have healthy and more fulfilling relationships we need to roll up our sleeves and to help things work the magic for the challenges that come from being in togetherness.
To be in a relationship even if there is so much love, one must still keep things going, one should not stop and settle, thus loosing interest for the partner and for life itself.
Unfortunately, most of us think, now I have you and you are the source of my happiness, I am just going to chill, you do all the work because I am amazing and to lazy but I deserve to be pleased and you have to entertain me, nourish, feed, massage, protect, provide, be my therapist, my best friend, my lover, my cleaning ladybug, you are my everything and do not dare to look for anything in return because I am not able to give it to myself never mind to someone else!
This kind of mentality is keeping us away from our self and away from truly being in a couple, because being in a relationship means two people that come together in an equal give and take, otherwise is called disbalance, one takes the other gives, that is like having a caregiver but for free, and that makes love fade or even completely die.
Being in a relationship is not about your selfish needs, is about being energetic, participating, being able to receive and give, being a good listener and a great communicator, being a good company and a complaining office, taking turns for sure…
Moreover, being in a relationship is sharing attention, time, care, plans, worries, meals, listen and being listened, being comforting and supported, trying to understand and being understood.
Being in a relationship is like making love, two people that are available, foreplay, play, ask to be pleased, please, give from themselves, are open to receive, they are passionately involved, they merge together.
They are present and in total movement of their bodies, they dance in the bliss of giving and taking, it feels like wild, raw, authentic ride, when one loses himself into the other, forgetting who is who just to explore and experience the most wonderful feelings, when their spirits touch the only thing bodies can not, they can finally uplift and upgrade to the highest levels of understanding!
It is easy to get involved in a relationship, at times easy to even fall in love, it is hard to have them together, harder to maintain them, one must be active, those two are for the braved ones, those are not for stagnant bodies and minds, those are for the daring ones.
Being in a partnership means giving up some parts of ourself, now tell me are you ready to budge, let your ego aside, communicate with honesty, being present, staying there even when the path gets rough, in health and sickness, even when you feel that things are falling apart and you are being tested, are you brave enough to face it and to work it out for the long ride?!
Raise your vibration! ❤❤
