You will know you have grown enough when love becomes the reason why we exist!

Not all the flowers blossom with the same speed, some need more time, they are all unique for sure, although some have spectacular qualities that’s why they take their time in showing up.

We are in a relationship with a partner for 3,5,7,10…20 years and they can only impact us as much if not at all, we meet someone for 3 times and they turn our life upside down forever, never underestimate the power of love!

Love is the most important feeling, is the true force that turns everything around at all times, no matter how much we try to fulfill our destiny in other areas without love nothing has the same value!

Love has the ability to heal, at times she has mysterious ways of bringing you happiness and joy, she comforts you or in contrast, she brings you to your knees, it depends upon which level are you at, and what it is going to teach you. 

Love is our greatest teacher, she knows her power is very transformative. She is especially cute with big egos, with strong-headed, as she likes to show them that heart can lead you where you want not your persistent persona. 

She is not weak, she is indeed very strong, so she will find her ways to take you there when you at least expect it, and with those, you never supposed to be in love with.

She knows how to tame the coldest, harshest, wildest, she actually is deeply attracted to those cases, she is passionate about her work as she always wins. 

When we meet someone and we fall in love within months or days it does not really matter as we can not control nor predict when that happens, even if we try we are just going to trigger our own suffocation, we will be the cause of our own suffering from keeping love away and from being disconnected from what we truly are. 

Especially two things might occur, enjoying the love because you were open to explore the possibility and both parties are at the same frequency, or you will try to control the outcome where both partners will clash and even if there was love in the first place things will crumble easily. 

When the second happens you have few other choices, you either hate love (love is completely innocent), you hate the other (you don’t learn the lesson, you refuse to grow up and to take responsibility), or you pick up the pieces and you allow healing to take place, thus being grateful for getting your heartbroken and wide open in order for you to accept what is in your best interest. 

At times we meet people that are so good for our souls and we feel at ease, at peace with them, they do not push our buttons and the relationship flows effortlessly, there might be growth or there might be not, it is what it is. 

Other times we meet people that are mirroring our fears back to help us grow and wake up, those ones are more challenging (not for the fainted hearted), are for those who are intense and require lots of change in order to stay together, even if not together at least they are going to learn about their weaknesses and their strengths as well as how to overcome what is not serving you any longer.

We either sever the ties, we work on ourselves and surrender or we can come back together at a later time. Decisions, decisions, decisions…choices, choices, choices…

Ironically, when we get hurt we can go on for years bickering and in bitterness, drinking poison, waiting for the other to die, so we build a future we do not like and we live in stagnation.

Unfortunately, we can repeat this for many lifetimes until we really get it, that we are the bad magician for our own sake not the other. 

On the other side, we do not look for healing and we do not seek for soul growth if there is no pain, we do not ask for help if things are going well and we do not change if there is no need. 

There is no transformation if there is no love for the other because only love can help us grow and give up our behavior or at least reflect on what we are doing wrong.

If we don’t love someone they do not have any power to make us sad, they can not make us revalue and doubt ourselves, they do not provoke any uncertainty within us, only when we love someone we are willing to accept our mistakes, bend, become humble, humanistic, compassionate, loving, only when we love we go back to our spirit, we go back to God/Universe, we try to solve the problems if there is any, we speak up, we show vulnerability…

Every relationship is a great guide to your love map, if you try to understand and to learn how to navigate that map you will have the potential to graduate in love and to spread that everywhere you go, as love is contagious, but is the best disease you would enjoy curing and hoping to not get out from.

Every person we meet has its own impact, but some of them with their grace and level of understanding will destroy your old ways, your ego, your fake you, your inflexible self, and if you embrace it you will be rewarded with the best gift ever. It is called love! 
Love yourself and let others love you! ❤❤