Relationships & Love!

Why I reccomend people to couple up only for love and to not for any other reason?!

Additionally, if you are in a relationship for love, it means you go extra miles for one another, you are willing to change and communicate, you are open to work things through despite the stress that coupling might bring at times or outside events can create, since love is stronger you will come on top at all times!

On the contrary, if you do not partner up for love, but for other reasons, that it might feel comfortable, it looks good in the eyes of the world, it happens for money, possessions, for sexual desires, for any other reason that keeps you away from tasting love, you are going to entrap yourself, and you are going to resent marriage, relationships, the other sex, everything in those lines, actually you will start hating love as you will connect it with the bitterness of not feeling free. 

One must understand that only love gives you boost to enjoy life, helps you to find your purpose, charges you with positive notions that will lead you to your ingenuity, it will connect you with your heart, it will destroy your self-destructive behaviors and thoughts that have been keeping you in prison. Love will mend your heart, soul, and mind, it will light up your entire being and you will be living your wild side instead of repressing it. 

In all other cases you will feel bored, you will only see life as duty, dull, there is not going to be any naturalness, you will sacrifice in the name of others, you will be part of insupportable partnerships, you will be disappointed by your own choices because you are preferring to cage yourself in situations you do not want to be in.

Subsequently, if you are feeling stuck and you have lost your enthusiasm for life, for prospect in life, if you are numbing yourself through cheating, drinking, smoking and traveling so you can nurture yourself for a tiny bit, so you can cover up your void with a band-aid, then you are in a wrong situation, where you thought it was right to be in, you thought it was going to fulfill you and bring love, you thought it was going to keep you safe and protected from the world, you thought that you are a “power couple” on the surface, but you can not stand each other when together, you are dissipating your time, your dynamism, and you are not allowing yourself to attract what you deserve, you are keeping felicity at bay by intentional isolation. 

This is just an indication of how choking is by being somewhere you do not want to be, feels like.

Moreover, I love freedom at all costs, and I love relationships pretty much, only when they uplift me and through lovemaking they help me rediscover myself, help me live my life mission, but if they are limiting me instead, I will not entertain the idea of being there, I am better of by myself. 

Thus, love freedom and accept nothing but that! Love is freedom, and if it does not liberate you, or even worse if it puts you in chains and restrictions please do not confuse it with the feeling of relief and belonging that only love can bring. Think about it, when in love our body releases toxins so they disappear, and activates hormones such as oxytocin, dopamine, and estrogen or testosterone, you instantly feel joyful, even scientifically it is fully explained and proved, if you are not experiencing it, then I am sorry to break the bad news, but is not love, not at all, and it will never be.

I have learned this in a hard way, and I have also been misunderstood when I set people free, especially when I feel they are not ready to be in a companionship, they take it as I am giving up or I do not care for them, because the only way they know how to be in a relationship is by chaining one another, by being trapped, by controlling and spying on one another, and by restricting the other from living and expressing themselves, and I still do not get it how do you call that love, how do you pretend to be in a relationship and for how long?! 

To conclude, check if it is an obsession, if it is an addiction, if it is lustful, if it is fearful, and ironically most of the people only know the latest, they feel sad when they were the ones that created their seclusion even though with someone else around. 

I love you and that is the reason why I give you space to make your choices and mistakes until you will find your way home, and if that place is not with me, then I still love you by letting you go! By doing so it does not mean I am shutting you out, it means you are free to stay, but you are not my property, you are my equal! ❤❤