Why relationships do not last?

Before settling we should go “shopping”!

Human nature is constructed in a way that goes on hunting for the next encounter or awaits to be hunted.

Equally, men and women have the power to work things out together, to grow in give and take, to embrace their gender, emotions, and needs, to work as a power couple.

We look for love all of our life, but more than that when me mature enough, we look for a partnership, for a companion, a woman who is in touch with her feminine energy wants in her life, someone who listens to her, who does things for her, pays attention to her and makes her happy, to feel safe and protected, she receives all this effortlessly, she is here to welcome such even if she has never been open to this truth.

On the other hand, a man feels good about himself if he gives to others and if he is taking actions if he feels appreciated if he has a duty to make others happy if he pursues and is being challenged if he resolves issues.

Pure biology, nothing more than human history, as much as we might want to see it otherwise, some things will be always the same.

When I was younger and more eccentric, quite a rebel I would say, I made sure to be very independent and to not ask for any help, nor express feelings, pretty much a poker face as to the degree of making the opposite sex feeling confused around me, I was creating the alpha woman, I still am defending that person, that power that comes from within, but I was quite never happy, little did I know I was suppressing that vulnerability, that emotional side that I am blessed with as a woman.

I felt strong, in charge, but not empowered, I felt stable and at times at peace but not fully content, I was denying my nature, I was in touch with my masculine side more than ever, I was thinking I have no time for a change.

For years, I also felt like something was off, and my relationships were not at the best, they were suffering along with me since I was meeting those who resist their natural feelings and emotions.

I have met guys who act like women, who want to listen, who want attention, and who want to be pleased, and I have been a giver, I did not know better than that, receiving was not my forte, so as much as it sucked finding this out, at first I felt sad and sorry for myself, I had all these feelings running through my entire body/mind, yet I felt liberated as I can finally know what to do about it, and how to take care of myself, allowing my better part to come in life.

It is of great importance that before committing to someone or investing ourselves, we should go “shopping”, we should engage with others so they will help us face our resistance and we show them theirs, through actions, beliefs and behaviors, only this way we can break free from our hangups, and outdated thinking.

It is alright to not fall for the first person we start dating, it is quite advisable to not get caught in anyone for that matter, some will disappear very fast, only a few will stay longer.

We have to learn how to be in our gender while being good in our skin, as a society, school, or our parents, have perhaps bullied us when we started to authentically express ourselves and how to show our emotional side, instead, we had to repress them in order for us to be approved and accepted.

Even though nothing whatsoever, was wrong with us, but then the reverse of roles happened, a man who embodied their feminine side and women who embodied their masculine side, that’s the indication why relationships are shortcoming, because if we are not true to ourselves, why would someone else be with us?!

Nevertheless, we can never meet someone who is beyond our vibration, we see manifested what is hidden inside, really, not what we want, and there is a total detachment, a mess, torture so to speak, we have been switched.

Therefore it is significant for us to meet up and expand, to learn how to stand by ourselves and it is the most natural process to be a woman and act like one if you are one, and to be a man if you have born as one, you have chosen that for a reason, spiritually and materially speaking, understanding it will give you satisfaction.

With “shopping” before being in a partnership, means we must study to become ready to meet the other in the middle, through accepting ourselves, being aware of our wants, desires, and requirements, and the other will be in the same frequency as we are, by default, there is always fun to be with someone else, in interdependence and relationships can survive the test of all times.

Don’t be afraid to make mistakes, do not count how many partners or lovers you have had to meet, how many failures you have faced, you are on the right path, you are always where you are supposed to be for a greater purpose, most likely the most difficult roads lead to amazing destinations, to the evolution of the soul, since you have been down and you know what it means to be up, you have been losing faith but you have learned how to restore peace.

You don’t know everything, that is not possible, however, you know something for sure, that no matter what happens you will still be grounded and centered enough to overcome the obstacles, because you now have experience, and that is your greatest wisdom.

RS ❤❤