Opening your Heart Chakra.
You can not have loving relationships until your heart is open to receive.
You can never forgive someone if you are unable to forgive yourself.
Only love can change the game, when we start loving all parts of ourselves and especially those we believe are unlovable, we are able to shed some light on our healing journey.
I have been so hurt from relationships to the degree that I gave up on trying, and I also for a while gave up on relationships altogether.
Many times I blamed them, other times I blamed myself, sometimes both, until I figured out another way, no one was at fault, or we were equally participating in some way, we knew as much as we knew at that time, and we were as much ready for that kind of outcome/interaction.
I have questioned everything over and over, I needed to go to the roots of failure, disappointment, hurt, and suffering, or this game I did not know how to play.
In order to move on we need to face ourselves and our past, and it is liberating to go back and revisit our ways of relating.
When we do the work within, we can be able to embrace what has happened for what it is and stop asking more questions, because that might hold us back at some point.
Most of the work with ending a relationship is not just moving on physically and emotionally, but energetically.
We can be hanging on to a partner and or relationship that was not good for us due to unforgiveness, blame, shame, guilt, regret, and so on, and we think we are past it.
The truth is we aren’t, we are carrying their energy around and until we make peace with the situation and our past we will not be able to move forward.
For your highest good, set the intention to let go.
Before taking a leap of faith in a new direction, instead of dating different faces but the same issues, replaying old relationships and patterns in our mind, going back and forth in addition to squeezing some more valuable information it is actually a pretty wise and mature thing to do.
The good part in this is that no one is truly bad, our true nature is only loving.
Here is something you can practice to open yourself up to love and loving relationships:
Imagine you are in a bubble of love and light, you are being showered with divine healing energy.
Sit in a comfortable position or lie down in your bed and start breathing, notice the liveness in your body for a few minutes.
Hold your hands in your heart and ask what is it that you have been holding on to, and listen without judgment.
Cry if you feel the need to, get in touch with the emotion, and stay there for a bit until you feel ready for the next step.
Now, ask if you need to do or say something, such as I am ready to let this go, I forgive (name of the person) or I forgive myself. Or I now know what I have been holding on to and I am ready to release it.
You can repeat this exercise as necessary, at least once a day, you may get different answers and or feeling to work on.
Enjoy the ride and if you cannot do this by yourself, you can reach out for an energy healer or practitioner.
I am also happy to assist you.
RS